Theoretical and experimental evidence is presented showing that both gravitational and electromagnetic fields (light) propagate instantaneously in the nearfield of a source and, within a wavelength, reduces to the speed of light c in the farfield. Relativity is shown to yield Galilean transformations when using instantaneous nearfield light, and yield Lorentz transformations when using farfield speed c light. Since time and space are real and can not depend on the frequency of light used to measure time and space of moving bodies, then it is concluded that Relativity is an optical illusion. Space and time are absolute and not flexible. Space can appear to contract, and time appear to dilate, when using farfield light to measure the effects of time and space of moving bodies. But the observed effects are not real and are an optical illusion, since using nearfield light will show that time and space have not changed. Since General Relativity is based on Special Relativity, then its effects on time and space are also an optical illusion. Gravitoelectromagnetism (GEM), based on an equivalent set of Maxwell equations for gravity, is known to be a weak field limit of General Relativity, which is all that we observe, and therefore predicts all the known gravitational observations. It is shown to also predict superluminal nearfield and farfield speed c propagating fields. GEM is concluded to be a better theory of gravity. Lastly it should be mentioned that this research shows that the Pilot Wave interpretation of Quantum Mechanics can no longer be criticized for requiring instantaneous interaction of the pilot wave with particles, thereby violating Relativity. Consequently the Pilot wave interpretation should become the preferred interpretation of Quantum Mechanics due to its deterministic simplicity.